Do you have an island bench? If so, I would consider staggering the height of at least the island so one half is taller (for you) and the other is shorter (for your wife). You could make it a design feature, while also being practical.

I'm not sure what you should do about the sink, cooktop and oven. If one of you always does the washing up, then the sink should be suitable for that height. I would guess that a wall oven (as opposed to an under bench oven) would work best for both of you. The cooktop would pose the biggest issue - unless you included two of them? Maybe a small gas cooktop and a small induction cooktop?

consider resale and how to keep it all standard ,

a standard bench top is 900mm if short finds this to high then look at 20mm lower, then add thicker cutting boards for tall like sttop suggests , who washes up in the sink? as this will be hard on talls back if the benches are lower

cheers adrian

Keep it standard, the tall person is used to bending down :)

Great - thank you everyone. Some great ideas here. I like the suggestion of raising the island bench and keeping the others standard - even if its a tad uncomfortable for me when I wash up!

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A great idea I have seen work well is to have the kick plates of the kitchen cupboards turned into a pull-out step.

The kitchen remains standard size for resale, but 'shorties' can pull out the step to add height.

If these are constructed in such a way, they can also turn upside down to become extra storage drawers!!

Short people can stand on a stool, tall people can’t cut off their legs.

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I'm 7 ft 8 , but I've had shoes made that fit on my kneecaps , and I walk around the kitchen using them .

That's my tall story .