Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I am amazed at the response! I think we will go ahead and change the benchtops, replace the cooktop with stainless steel, a new rangehood, splashbacks and new door and drawer handles and possibly a new sink and taps. We will consider painting the beam and post and add a modern blind to the window. Then if we are still not happy, maybe we can rethink the painting of the cupboards? Actually, I like the timber, so if these changes work I will be more than happy to leave them as they are. Our floor tiles are relatively new and are throughout the entire downstairs area. Also, the wall paint we know is not the right tone (for the floor tiles) but is in good nick and will be remaining until we are ready to repaint. Rome wasn't built in a day but I will add photos when we start the process and you can follow our progress. Thanks again

It looks as if the area is in permanent shadow, but even if it's not, I would opt for a sandstone/pale honey colour. Something that reflects the light and also gives warmth to an otherwise very cool area. A couple of planters would also look good - even if you have to opt for faux plants in a sunless area!

Traditionally if they were painted (not stained timber) they would have been painted to match the trim colour in a semi-gloss or gloss paint. They would never have been painted the same as the wall paint as the wall finish (probably a low-sheen) is not suited to the wear that doors get, and is harder to clean than a semi-gloss.

I agree with Gallery 360s idea. Personally I wouldn't choose any of your options for that space...but have what you love.