First thing I'd do is throw the grey carpet up onto the sofa. Meaning it's colour. Introduce a thick grey throw, loosely folded over one of the seats, up over the back then layer your cushions in front of that. Building up onto it will scatter your colour palette around and start bringing it all together. It will be softened. However keep your colours to a minimum, perhaps 2. This does not include tones of colour, as many as you like will add interest and sophistication. In a chocolate and grey interior, it could be luxe, but I am thinking shades of salmon and mustard up against creams and greys. You also need to link your walls to the sofas, as the floor area looks heavy in comparison. To correct it you either introduce the wall colour down onto the floor, or the floor colour up onto the wall, it will balance it out. I'd place large black frames with rich colours of chocolate with perhaps gold leaf or metallics. Keep it abstract to be modern, or even go the opposite with some classic charcoal pencil sketches in a pair of large frames. The images will start to personify your space, so choose the context of the image that you can continue a theme from, like architecture where you can place related objects on a side table, even coffee table, I love tables with reference books that on a Whim you can pick up for inspiration. It shows who you are and what you aspire to. Or it may be floral, landscapes, paintings whatever, find something that works. Don't necessarily go looking for art, you can make it, save an image online, print and frame to suit you and your budget. Even an a3 image can be framed in a larger frame to make a bold statement, just add a frame Matt that you get from a picture frame shop. Ikea also have ready made large frames too. For some reason emerald green keeps popping into my mind when I look at your room, maybe some plants, foliage can liven a space but also, slight little traces of it around can freshen a space. Maybe thin picture frames, or spines of books can bring this in.

I'm not 100% sure what you're asking, but if you're looking for suggestions whether to make the lower cabinets grey and the upper cabinets white or vice versa, then I would be tempted to make the lower cabinets grey. I think this would help to make the ceiling feel higher and the overall space larger and brighter. But, it may depend upon what style you're going for, whether you have an island benchtop and, if so, what material/colour will be on the rear/exposed side of the island benchtop, the amount of natural lighting, etc. You can easily search through Houzz photos by room, size, colour, materials, etc. Here are a few examples I found from a quick search which may help:

Bunnings also has some great laminated wooden benchtops in different colours (real wood) that would look great with your new kitchen and would add warmth and would be very cost effective to boot. I dislike laminate. What size is your Island

all the colours and textures seem to become fashionable again but what is the purpose of the tall cabinets next to the fridge??.. i suggest that when building for sale or rental it's better to have a standard colour scheme and kitchen arrangements and keep personal taste for our own homes