What a beautiful big space! I believe you posted this in the wrong forum. 'Design Dilemma' would have been a better location for it, hence the no replies. What does the end result look like?

Hi Emma, You need a canopy of tall plants to create a tropical Balinese garden, palms for shade, large leaf plants bright cordyline , helliconia, bromeliads, ferns , water features to give that tropical lush look, you are on the right track just need to mass plant to achieve the desired effect

Can you post a sketch? I'm scrolling back and forth trying to visualise it all and understand dimensions and orientation and usage. If the fence colour suits the house and creates a good background for the plants I wouldn't worry about whether it will date. The same concern could apply to the house, but if it all comes together in a way that is classically timeless rather than overly trendy and you're happy with it, then it's working. Alternatively formal or informal hedging can obscure the fence and avoid the question of what colour the fence should be. I agree that with a toddler and dogs you want to keep as much of that lawn as you can. Work out how much garden bed is needed around the edge so that you are not constantly pruning the plants back to fit, but so it still leaves as much lawn as you want. What's missing in my view is edging, most garden styles look better with edging between the plants and the grass. Another thing that gives gardens a more finished look is underplanting. Research plants to ensure you don't plant anything that is toxic or allergenic. Remember humans and dogs can differ in that regard. Start an Ideabook for your garden. If you have images of what you are trying to achieve, and you can share that with us, you can make progress with specific how to's and choosing specific plants.

Start by spending a portion of your budget on the various dream feature items that are relocatable and can be used in your final design anyway. e.g. Buy the firepit you really want - it can become the focal point of your future garden. Test it outside in your backyard for a few months. Are heaps of mozzies annoying you while you're sitting outside around the firepit? If so, then you'll know that you're going to need a gazebo with flyscreens as well as privacy curtains so you can really enjoy lying outside in your hammock year round. The hammock is another relocatable part of your design. First, lie outside in your backyard on a swag or a rug for a few hours. Is it too windy? Is there road noise? Keep experimenting until you've found the perfect location for the hammock. Then buy an inexpensive hammock and suspend it from a couple of sturdy RL4 poles. If it's working, then this is the place where you should build your future patio, that's going to shelter your hammock. Keep testing inexpensive versions of your other ideas out. Trial tea candles or a string of inexpensive white Christmas lights as garden lighting. Do they create the feel you want or do lights just attract moths or unwanted insects? What about relocatable solar garden lights? Or a portable floodlight from Bunnings? Where's the ideal place for your garden table and chairs? Test it out with inexpensive camping chairs - or chairs you already own for a few months to be sure. Then invest in the perfect outdoor table and chairs. Same with the water feature. Start with a wine barrel with a waterlily or a second hand pond off Gumtree. Can you hear the trickling water in the garden or do other noises crowd it out? Keep in mind big goldfish need deep water and space to swim. To help you in your choice of plants,look around your immediate neighbourhood. What purple, blue and scented plants are thriving in your immediate area? Who has the best garden in your street in your opinion - and why do you think that? Do you always see a particular neighbour passionately working outside in their garden? That's the person you should strike up a conversation with to get advise about suitable plants for your immediate area. Chances are they will not only give you heaps of free advise but they will probably give you plants and cuttings as well. Markets are another source of perennial plants that grow well in the local area. Plant these smaller plants into large plastic pots and garden bags and allow them to grow for a year or so. Consider herbs as filler plants - many are highly scented, can be used in cooking and often have interesting foliage e.g. choc mint, fennel, rosemary etc. After you've been using your backyard for at least a year and you've experienced all of the seasons, then invest in your big ticket items like your gazebo. Buy or build a structure that's truly practical for your local microclimate - incorporate glass, windbreak fencing, shadecloth, mozzie mesh or whatever you need to make your hammock shelter ultra comfortable. Build this structure where you've tested it and know it will work - not where a stranger who designs gardens thinks it should go. Spend the remaining money on the things you know you need and want - the stones, plants, irrigation, a birdbath, etc