What do you want in the ensuite? Double vanity? Double shower? Bath? If so, what kind of bath? A separate / private toilet? I think the answers to those questions will direct you to what shape room will best meet your requirements. But, in general, a long, narrow design seems to be the most appropriate, with the shower at one end, sink/s in the middle and toilet at the other end.

If you search DIY banquette on Pintrest you’ll see instructions and measurements. Most are in inches but you can convert them. Could you measure the seat height of the chairs you are using with the table (you need the table first) subtract the cushion height and that will give you the bench height. It does depend on the height and weight of those that will be using it the most, to get the best fit.

i would probably try for at least 90cm but depends on the size and shape of the room, location of doors and windows and size and shape of other fixtures..can you post a plan of the room?

You have an ensuite and an identical bathroom around 3 steps further apart. Can't see any advantage for this. You could lose the ens, relocate the WIR and end up with a bigger bedroom, bigger WIR and save money. Your roof has these eaves all close together over what appears to be some upper level windows, but these walls aren't reflected below. If I've understood this correctly you've added significant build cost for little gain. I think the room sizes are ok but I would suggest a design professional to polish it up.