Wow winner to me is the colour changing LED lighting, sets the mood for whatever you are doing: games, studying etc

We have white shutters also throughout,our couch is called latte so not a true white leather lounge, with the soft grey walls and have added white and blue lattice rug and I'm happy with it

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I am amazed at the response! I think we will go ahead and change the benchtops, replace the cooktop with stainless steel, a new rangehood, splashbacks and new door and drawer handles and possibly a new sink and taps. We will consider painting the beam and post and add a modern blind to the window. Then if we are still not happy, maybe we can rethink the painting of the cupboards? Actually, I like the timber, so if these changes work I will be more than happy to leave them as they are. Our floor tiles are relatively new and are throughout the entire downstairs area. Also, the wall paint we know is not the right tone (for the floor tiles) but is in good nick and will be remaining until we are ready to repaint. Rome wasn't built in a day but I will add photos when we start the process and you can follow our progress. Thanks again

It's a lovely tile! I'd go light-mid grey (basically like the picture!), if you go dark then it's pointless having the interesting hexagonal shape and the veins will look a bit odd stopping and starting, and if you go too light it will compete with the veins in the marble and look to busy.