I can tell that you are not writing from Boston! :>) Well, if you want white cabs, use your trim paint in a gloss. If you need to fill with molding from the top of the cabinet to the ceiling, it will match. I love blue and white in a kitchen.

I would vote for the top example here. Itr gives an earthy tone to the room and yet is still bright and wont show every piece of dust or food.

Dulux whisper white. Get a sample pot, paint a large piece of cardboard and see for yourself.

@Kate checked out tiles today found a beautiful charcoal 60x 60 floor .. I've found an awesome 20 x20 with blue aeld of blue colours ranging from navy blue through to other tones of it seems to work nicely with some gold penny rounds for niche and ledge for bath.. I'm thinking a timber fluted vanity to pull back into our timber floors outside plus the wall paper has earthy Brown's in it