Hi Kate, do you have any floor plans or pictures which will help us visualise the areas?

https://www.galvinhw.com.au/grace2/product.php?pid=4469 I found Galvins in Perth and Adelaide had the best range of pull, very well designed and so easy to use. No jammed fingers. I had 52 something similar to this. I could open with little finger when hand were dirty. Mine were rounder so looked like a full stop on the edge of the cabinet rather than overwhelming the line of the cabinets.

SOOOO Annoying....I 100% feel your pain, I've had many "discussions" (read: confrontations) with builders about this - despite clear specification they just don't seem to get that seamless/concealed means we don't want to see that sliding door sticking out AT ALL.........Yes, you can fix it, but the problem with the less invasive option, (which is to pack out the frame so that the door is completely concealed) is the reduction in the opening width.......this detail to pull off well needs to be nailed down at framing stage/ordering of the cavity door units, because the cavity unit really needs to be ordered longer.......it's an expensive fix for the builder if they stuff it up - they'll try and talk you out of it, so if you had it in the contract/spec possibly it's a point of negotiation if there are other variations/extras involved... Good luck Kay! PD :)

It would not be unusual to have black knobs, handles etc and different hinges. It is personal preference though.